"Children are much more robust and competent than we allow them to be in everyday life
Norbert F. Schneider, sociologist and family researcher in an interview with "Der Spiegel"
It is fundamentally important for the growth and mental health of our children that they learn to cope with frustrations and injustices in life at an early age. Ideally, we parents should support and strengthen them in this process. We provide them with support and together we endure the fact that there are moments that are not nice.
Unfortunately, however, there is a trend that parents all too often try to keep any pain and frustration away from their children. In practice, for example, we see this when children have to be distracted with a video or something similar for even the smallest things. It would be better to say something like: "So, now it's going to be unpleasant, now it's going to hurt a little - but together we'll get through it." Or things like injustices at school: a child can and is allowed to simply put up with that. If the parents support the child and stand by their side emotionally, the bottom line is that the child is strengthened and their self-competence grows.
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Phubbing
From what, please? Phubbing. A word that would be best if it didn't exist. It's a contraction of the two English words "phone" and "snubbing", which means to snub or offend. And it describes the moment when an interaction or communication is interrupted by reaching for a smartphone or other digital media.
Nature never disappoints
I once read this sentence in a parenting book and I have to say: it's simply true. With my children, too, it was sometimes a fuss until they were dressed, they whinged that they didn't want to go out and it took forever until we were outside. But when we were outside, in the snow, by the stream, in the meadow, somewhere in nature, it was always great, the children always had fun discovering something, something that interested them.
Addicted parents
If a mother or father suffers from an addiction problem, this is not only a burden for them, but also for their children. There is also a high risk that the children will later suffer from an addiction problem themselves. There is a model project in Baden-Württemberg to deal with this issue: "SALTO".